Living with Jess is a little more difficult than I thought it would be. Not that its stressful or ruining our relationship or anything, but there are points of contention.
All my adult life I have just "done". I do the housework, the laundry last minute plans, time with my family I've just done it of I want to it think its the right thing to do.
Now, I have to consult with her on everything and sometimes (OK a lot of times) it seems like it has to be done her way without taking my feelings or considerations into account.
Today for example, we are cooking burgers in the grill. There is far more food than we need. So I asked if we should invite my dad and his wife up for the 4th. Jess said "Its too late notice" effectively closing the conversation.
My family is everything to me and since my mom died it feels like the family has disintegrated. I take every chance I can to spend time with them. Jess does not have a close relationship with her family and rarely sees them. When we are with my family I feel like she doesn't even try and sits by herself playing games on her phone until someone talks directly to her. It makes me feel bad because I don't want to leave her out and yet she makes no effort.
Another thing today is the clothes pins. I asked her to pick some up at the grocery store so I could use my new clothesline today. She said no because they would be too expensive there and she would get some at Walmart later. Again, she knew best!
Anyway, I'm sure that this is all a part of the adjustment period of living together and we will overcome....at least I hope we will.
Happy Independence Day everyone....stay cool....its 102° in this day in the life of Claire
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